Think about it-an Indirect Communicator really needs the people around him/her to read the non-verbal signs of what s/he is trying to communicate-which can be HUGELY frustrating for Direct Communicators, whose natural tendency is to rely on words and words alone!
The bad news is in addition to communication styles, I believe there are also three distinct relational styles that we all have, that govern how we connect and engage with the people around us! And, just like with our communication styles, our relational styles can create problems as people with different relational styles try to connect with one another.
If you’ve ever tried to speak to someone who doesn’t speak your language, you know how frustrating it can be!
Over the next few weeks I’ll be talking about these three relational styles to give you a better understanding of why you are the way you are and why the people around you are the way they are. Knowing this will revolutionize the way you connect with others.
Let me give you an example:
Recently my wife and I were having a conversation-and it became clear to me that she wasn’t happy with how I was reacting and responding to her. The funny thing is I thought I was handling it very well…and according to my relational style, I probably was. But because my wife is wired differently than I am, it didn’t come across very well.
And, as you can imagine when my wife wasn’t reacting favorably to me, it upset me, which derailed our conversation.
Thankfully, once cooler heads prevailed, we were able to deconstruct what happened and much of what caused us problems was rooted in our different relational and communication styles. Once we came to that conclusion, we were able to resolve the tension….sort of. (=
Join me next time to learn about the three distinct relational styles….and to determine which relational language you speak!