You see, I have been trained to quickly shoot down any attempts at "suggestive selling" by anyone using this sales technique on me. After all, if I wanted fries with my order, I would have ordered it. If I wanted to add churros or a dessert, I would have done it already. Now back up pushy and give me the food that I asked for!
Have you ever come home and noticed your spouse or significant other looking really ticked off at the world? So you start to walk around on "pins and needles" because your partner is in a bad mood. Maybe you start to think, "What is wrong with YOU?!?!?!? I was in a good mood until I came home and saw you!"
Then you find out that s/he wasn't in a bad mood at all when you came home, it just looked like it! Unfortunately your reacting to his/her bad mood, triggered the bad mood in your spouse. S/he was doing fine until s/he saw the grumpiness in your eyes! Which made her wonder, "Geez! What is wrong with you???" Now you're both irritated, when neither of you really were, when the night began.
Have you found yourself metaphorically asking people over and over again, "Would you like fries with that?", with no one taking you up on that offer. Sometimes the very thing you're doing, is the one thing you're supposed to avoid.
In what ways have you conditioned the people in your life to automatically reject or tune you out? Have you noticed a pattern where you seem to be getting the opposite results of what you wanted?