The Relationship Difference by Rommel Anacan
  • Home
  • About Us
    • Training & Speaking
    • Consulting
    • Your Training Department
    • Multi-Family Housing
    • Video Production Services
  • Meet Rommel
  • Speaking Samples
  • Fan Feedback
  • Contact Us

It's Our Blog!

Grab a cup of coffee, relax for a minute or two, find your happy place, read the posts and join in the conversation!

First Time Visitor?

It's Time For a New Definition of "Success!"

7/8/2015

0 Comments

 
You’ve probably heard the saying, “Success is NOT a destination…it’s the journey.” 

Yet, if I’m honest, for much of my life whenever I’ve heard someone say this I’ve thought …

  • “If success is the journey, and I’m on the journey, why do I still feel so unsuccessful.
  • Why can’t I pay my rent? 
  • Why haven’t I gotten the promotion? 
  • Why do I feel like a loser? 
  • When is it my turn?”
Picture
Photo Credit: FreeDigitalPhotos.net
Have you ever thought, “I’ll be a success when…”

I make more money.

People like my pictures on Facebook. 

I find “the one.”

I buy my first luxury car.

I get the promotion.

My kid becomes a doctor.

Interestingly,  have you found that when you chase “success,” as soon as you hit one goal there always seems to be one more goal ahead of you?

About 10 years ago my wife and I bought our first home and we thought it was “perfect” and one that we could live in for many years. We couldn’t have been happier. Then we saw some new homes being built that caught our eye, and suddenly our “perfect” home felt inadequate.

Then life took us on a journey where we sold our home, relocated out of state and rented a nice (but smaller) townhouse. And now, well, that “inadequate” home seems like it would be “perfect” once more!

A New Definition of Success

Let me give you the definition of success that I am working with today…

What if success can be defined as:

Simply having the courage to “show up?” 

For some of you being successful may mean offering a suggestion in a meeting instead of being silent, or saying you disagree with a policy being implemented. For others it will be making the decision to leave your current company. It might mean being exceptionally kind to a customer who is just ripping your head off.

The thing is~all of these situations could go bad, right? You could offer a suggestion in the meeting that everyone thinks is awful. You may take the plunge to look for a new job and no one calls.

You could ask for a pay raise and be denied. You could offer amazing service to a customer who then blasts you on a ratings and reviews site (that’s always fun, right?)

Then what?

I say CELEBRATE!! Because success in these situations may not be about getting the raise, or having your suggestion adopted, or finding the dream job…in fact, I think success is more often about having the courage to ask for the raise, make the decision to look for a new career, asking someone out on a date, being nice to the rude customer, and simply “showing up” where and when you need to show up, than it is in the results that you get.

In what ways has success been more about “showing up” than about the results you’ve received?

_________________

(This post originally appeared on www.PMStaffing.net.)
0 Comments



Leave a Reply.

    Picture

    Rommel Anacan

    I am a national speaker, trainer, and strategic consultant to companies and organizations. I'm also
    the president and founder of The Relationship Difference a professional and personal development company in Orange County, California.

    My passion is helping people succeed by helping them connect, communicate and engage with the people around them more effectively. 

    More about me and this blog here!

    FIRST TIME HERE?

    Most Read Posts

    • How to Lose a Customer in 10 Seconds
    • Break-Up! When Change is a Great Thing
    • The Second Button-Lessons From the Famous Seinfeld Episode
    • Why People Love Southwest Airlines
    • When Do You Take a Chance on Your Dreams?
    • Communicating in Social Media
    • It's a Wonderful Movie
    • Someone to Believe in Me
    • Can I Order Some Food First? Improving the Work Environment
    • Renew, Refresh and Restore!
    • Developing a Leadership Culture



    Archives

    April 2016
    March 2016
    February 2016
    January 2016
    December 2015
    August 2015
    July 2015
    June 2015
    May 2015
    March 2015
    February 2015
    January 2015
    October 2014
    September 2014
    August 2014
    July 2014
    June 2014
    May 2014
    April 2014
    March 2014
    February 2014
    January 2014
    December 2013
    November 2013
    October 2013
    August 2013
    July 2013
    June 2013
    May 2013
    April 2013
    March 2013
    February 2013
    January 2013
    December 2012
    November 2012
    October 2012
    September 2012
    August 2012
    July 2012
    June 2012
    March 2012
    January 2012
    December 2011

Powered by Create your own unique website with customizable templates.
Photos from Jessa B.C., roland, Joits, Veronique Debord, a4gpa, Neon Tommy, Keith Allison, phoenixshade, ThinkGeoEnergy, psigrist, Tony Fischer Photography, Jeffrey Beall, permanently scatterbrained, tastybit, Chris Winters, jurvetson, DWallis, North Devon Council, gnuckx, fabbio, NicoleElocin, marragem, Andy M¢, Gage Skidmore, JohnSeb, zzpza, Luigi Rosa, Erin Costa, justinbaeder, Jeffrey Beall, Keith Allison, neil conway, devinStein, losol, wanderingone, Bludgeoner86, vasilemadalin, wjarrettc, paulhami, Shaun Greiner, DonkeyHotey