Cars are not the only things that need preventative maintenance and tune ups...so do relationships!
I tend to get defensive at first and will often resist what my wife is telling me. However, once I get past the defensive stage and see past what my wife is trying to say, I admit that I do learn a lot. I know that she means the best for me and I appreciate that she is able to tell me her thoughts and feelings...even if I don't always like it.
The most important thing with our marriage tune up discussions is that we get an opportunity to discover what isn't working, so that we can change it...and also to reinforce what is working, so that we can continue doing those things.
I'll admit, I still don't always "get" or understand some of the ways she sees things and I know for a fact that she often feels the same way! Yet, I realize after these tune ups that I don't always have to understand why or how she sees things. I don't always have to agree-and she doesn't have to agree with me. We just need to validate each other's unique point of view and perspective and then strive to do the things we know make the other person feel loved, valued and cared for.
Cars are complex creations aren't they? There are so many working parts and so many things that go wrong. This is why it is so important to stay on top of the little things, before they become big things. The same is true in our relationships, isn't it?
What do you do to "tune-up" your relationships?