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Accepting Our Differences: "Stop Trying to Make Me Eat Seafood!"

1/11/2013

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I don't know what happened to me, but I just don't like seafood. The funny part is I'm originally from Hawaii, I'm of Asian ancestry and I somehow would rather have some fried chicken and mashed potatoes or a good steak rather than any type of seafood...including sushi. 
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Being from Hawaii, it’s not that I haven’t been exposed to world class seafood. Believe me when I tell you that I’ve tried some of the freshest fish, crab, lobster, calamari etc. in the world. Yet each time the results are the same...I don’t like it! 
Now, over the years I have met many, many, many, people who thought that the issue was simply that I haven’t eaten seafood prepared the “right way”. So, I have politely endured “magic” recipe after “magic” recipe, for countless seafood dishes over the years, and I haven't liked any of them. 

I remember once eating in a Chinese restaurant with my family and they encouraged to try some lobster tail with butter sauce. Nope. Then the waiter brought out deep fried scallops an since I really love fried foods I was told I should try the scallops. Nope. Even worse than the lobster! And, believe me I LOVE deep fried foods!!

In case you're wondering, it does get irritating. I once had a co-worker tell me that I "didn't know what I was missing!" when I chose not to try some fish. I wanted to scream, “I’m not missing anything, because I don’t like the way it tastes! If I actually liked seafood and chose to not eat it, then I would be missing something.” But I chose to smile politely instead. (Probably should have let her have it, huh?)

I suppose what irritates me the most is when people think that I somehow need to change what I like to eat, simply because my tastes are different from theirs. 

The same is often be true in our relationships, isn't it?

Far too often we try to "feed" the people in our lives what we want to feed them or what we think they should want to eat, instead instead of taking the time to learn what they want and providing them with the “relationship food” that they really desire.

So if we happen to share a meal, I'll pass on the sushi but I will try the chicken fried steak. (=

Have you had similar types of experiences in your life? 

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Bridget Willard link
2/6/2015 03:05:43 am

I'm with you, friend. I like fish and chips and that is it.
YUCK.
I love your analogies. We want everyone to be like us. They're not.

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    Rommel Anacan

    I am a national speaker, trainer, and strategic consultant to companies and organizations. I'm also
    the president and founder of The Relationship Difference a professional and personal development company in Orange County, California.

    My passion is helping people succeed by helping them connect, communicate and engage with the people around them more effectively. 

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